To my dear sister,
When I heard that you were pregnant, I felt so many things for you. The normal feelings
like joy and happiness obviously but also, I felt ready to prepare you for the days that wouldn't
be all butterflies and sunshine. Pregnancy, for some, is wonderful. They "glow" and enjoy every second of the miracle that grows inside of them. I was NOT one of those people. For some things,
yes but mostly.. I grew to miss things quickly! My clothes fitting, standing straight up without hurting, sleeping on my stomach, etc. Thankfully, you made it through yours without any
alarming or extra crazy things happening. You even made it pretty close to your due date and
gave birth to a healthy little chubby cheeked baby girl. My first born is now 11 but I remember everything about THOSE days. How can one tiny little being turn your world upside down so drastically? It seems crazy and yet, that's how it is. I don't doubt your abilities as a new mom.
I know you have a ton of support and friends and a whole contact list of people to call should
you have a concern or question or just want to vent. All of that is comforting to know! The first year is full of many things... Wonder... fear.. panic.. curiosity... joy... relief.. frustration.. excitement.. and more. There will be times when you do something and then later think, "what the hell...?" and that's totally normal! You will do crazy things without realizing it or even start your own line of psycho babble. Again, totally normal. ;)There are things that people will advise you on that you will ignore because you will want to scape your own path and there's nothing wrong with that. There will be times you will panic and wonder if an illness or injury is worthy of the hospital or if you are capable of being doctor mom at home. There will be days you are so happy and calm you will just look at her precious face and tears will well up in your eyes. There will be other days where all you want to do is be somewhere alone where it's quiet and you can spend some time NOT ADULTING just to recoup
your sanity. I want you to know that there is nothing wrong with ANY of that. Another thing first time moms try their hardest to do... Be the best mom in the world! Let me tell you, you will be a
great mother and that is what she will remember. Everything that you can do, big or small,
you are her beacon of everything. In her eyes, you know everything, will teach her everything,
can get rid of scary things, make the best food and snacks, bring stories to life, heal every boo-boo with a kiss.. In her eyes, you will be SUPER. THAT is what you need to remember when you have days where you think you're doing life all wrong. Even if you feel low, there will be nobody
higher to her. It's ok to have breakdowns and want chocolate and sleep. It's ok to not want
to go anywhere or walk around in pj's all day. It is ok to C R Y, for whatever reason. There is no "OFF" switch to your reactions to the things coming your way. Just know that no matter what that reaction and situation is, there have been several people feeling the same way and doing the same thing before you. Her first year will be an adventure for BOTH of you. She will learn, grow and adapt and at the same time, you will do the same! I know you will do great! I will be here for you for the
milestones both great and worrysome! Remember, there is no such thing as a ridiculous question either! Some times even if you know the answer and want an excuse to call... just know that you don't need an excuse to call! I love you very much and I can't wait to hear all about your adventure as you embark on the long, crazy, twisted, exhausting and enjoyable road that is parenthood.... PS.. It's true what they say... After the first one... You're an expert! ;)
Kiss her for me!!!!!!
-SuperMom (and sister)
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