It feels like I should be saying good afternoon.. But it's not even 9:30am yet.. Maybe it only feels later because I've been awake since 5... ANYWAY. Todays topic is one that we have ALL (Even if you SAY you haven't, I know you have one time or another..) have been ignored in some form or fashion. Like everything else in life, there is no one way to handle to it. Some people blow it off because they really just don't give a shit and other people DWELL on it, dissect it, and blow it UP. Of course there are about a thousand other ways in between the two sides of the spectrum but as this posting usually goes... We're going to scope in on where I land on the topic... (Because I'm the one writing..) And here we go!
I am someone who likes to talk. I can do it quietly, loudly, for long periods of time, to break awkward silences, to make someone feel better, to make someone feel bad, to get my point across, to make something clear, to make good times better, to make you go "Hmm..." and tons of other scenarios. It's just something that I DO. It's not that I'm one of those people who never shuts up, I just have a way of with words as I'm told. If you're sad, I can make you smile (you know who you are!). If you're stuck on something, I can help you out. Again, it's just something I do.. That being said and glancing back at the title... How do you think I would take being ignored? No, I don't go into a totally irrational state of wondering what I could've possibly done wrong to bring it upon myself.. Well, not ALWAYS anyway.. I just don't like it. It's probably one of my five key things in life that someone could do to me that would just piss me off. Have I had people do it me before? Sure, haven't we all? But seriously... Honestly now.. I would MUCH rather be told to "F**k off!" than to just hear NOTHING.
Since I was younger, I've always had people around me around my age. And as in any situation with more than one person, if something went wrong or trouble came about in any way, there had to be someone at fault. Sadly, I was usually that person even if I wasn't in fact THAT PERSON. I spent a lot of time being the "fall guy" as in if we were going down, I was the reason for the fall... Like any other kid not wanting to get into trouble, I would plead my case and point out things that I DID NOT do but more times than none, when the fault leader was pointed out, that was pretty much it. I got into a groove of not even really TRYING to defend myself from that crap after a while. I could try to avoid stuff out of my control and yes, I DID do things that got me in trouble as does every other child, but I had taken blame for others too. And that was not by any choice of mine... As I got older, I still had that busted wall that people could (and did) just climb over to walk on me. It was so common that I barely noticed it anymore. I became the kind of person who wanted to be there for people and help in any way I could and if something came up where we weren't talking anymore... It was probably something I had done! Isn't that a shitty way to think? To be a people pleaser and STILL have people ignore you or treat you like you're a horrible person?!? THAT got annoying when it happened even if it was only a few rare times. Of course I take into consideration that people have their own LIVES to live. Obviously you get caught up in the day to day grind especially when you have work and kids and errands and appointments... I GET IT! At the same time though... Tell me something! If I send a text asking if you want to do something on Sunday afternoon and Wednesday comes and you still haven't answered... I mean come on. The word "no" is TWO FREAKING LETTERS! Just say NO! When I moved out of state with my husband away from family far away from any friends or relation, I relied on my phone SO MUCH to connect me to all those people I would never lose touch with. When I became irrelevant to those same people because I wasn't PHYSICALLY THERE anymore, that's when I decided to lean more towards the "I don't give a shit" side of the spectrum. If I wasn't worth a lousy text, then why would I waste energy and time on giving a damn? I decided I wouldn't. These days, seven out of ten people keep their cell phone (when allowed) within five feet of their bodies ALL THE TIME. SEVENTY PERCENT! NINE out of ten people sleep with their phones within three feet of where they lay their head! When I get a text or miss a call, I have the initial notification and a continuous blinking light that lets me know there is something on my phone that's not always there until I check it... My phone is like all the others... which means if I send a text or call and you don't get it... It's RIGHT there on your phone! The phone that is probably sitting next to you if not ON you ALL FREAKING DAY! THAT is the fact that pushes my buttons even today... So it's not a slight miss but rather a blatant disregard to acknowledge me in any way. It's too bad that some people are still so ass-ish. (Oh yeah, that just happened!) It's also sad how totally dependent people have become on technology (myself included! And I wouldn't trade it...) to the point that knowing how the human on the other end is doing is some times irrelevant. Long story short, we all know your phone is always RIGHT THERE so instead of being an ass for no reason (for those of you who don't have a reason..) just answer! If you can't or don't want to talk or hear anything for five days, SAY IT! Someone's silence (especially THESE days) can be depicted and dissected into so many random, crazy and irrational ways... Just say something. One word... three words... some kind of face.. It's not hard... Ignoring can lead to unnecessary feelings, resentment, paranoia, judgments, mood swings, anger, crazy questions and God knows what else. Don't ignore! It ranks up there with pretending people don't exist!
Yeah... this was a weird one that stemmed from a weird situation... Don't ask! Happy Hump Day! -Super Mom
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